Can we stop doing this?

When I was very young, I had that typical girl mentality…

I don’t like her because:

~She’s prettier than me.

~She’s a better dancer.

~The guy I like likes her more.

~She’s smarter than me.

It wasn’t until I was a little older that I realized the power we have as women when we are supportive of one another.

I don’t know why everything has to be a competition between women. We all have special skills and attributes that no one else can match and we need to stop breaking each other down, and instead start lifting each other up.

I work primarily with women and a few special men in my coaching business and I could not be prouder when they come to me with fantastic news. I genuinely want to see them excel. I want to help them reach their wildest dreams. I want them to make a great income and live an even greater life.

When we support each other, we are truly unstoppable. You’ve heard the phrase “it takes a village to raise a child.” And isn’t that the truth? I loved when my kids were in school and I was attending parent meetings and we were planning events and leaning on one another to take on projects or just chit chatting about the crazy journey of parenthood. We needed each other to get through some of those long and busy days.

I think it takes a village to run and grow a business, too. We need each other. If we stopped the competition, the pettiness, the need to be the best and instead focused on friendship, support and love, this world would be one fantastic place.

There will always be someone prettier, smarter, faster, more creative, but they won’t be YOU. You have all you need and if you partner up with the ladies who have different skills than you and you put those skills to work together, you are going to grow and thrive and be super successful.

I have been fortunate to have mentors, coaches, and friends support me in this journey in building Slater Success Coaching and they have made the difference in my success. In helping me see what is at times right in front of me, yet invisible to my eyes and support me in taking actions that are out of my comfort zone. They stand for me, and with me, in good times and in the more difficult times.

Tell me about one of your favorite women friendships in business and how you worked together to make something amazing happen. Share with me on the SSC Facebook and LinkedIn page.

The Greatest Tears

Last week was a wonderful celebration as the members of Ivy’s Money League (IML) came together for a two-day retreat in New York City.

There were many celebrations of success, as well as tears shed, as we worked through the next growth steps of everyone’s business.

One thing I learned when building SSC, 

is that the flow of tears has been a great asset to me.

This is not about being a cry baby, it is about transformation!

As a business coach, and working with my own coach over the years, this is what I have learned:

  • When I cry, it usually leads to a breakthrough for my business.

  • At those breakthroughs come transformations that help me grow my business.

  • I can truly attribute every major breakdown to the transformation that often resulted in $100K in growth.

Sounds awesome, right?!

As I witnessed the IML clients having their breakthroughs, I thought to myself, how amazing it is to be surrounded by a community we refer to as a family. True support systems for one another.

Many of the clients were apprehensive about crying, breaking down and expressing their emotions in such a public way. They weren’t used to that vulnerability and I knew just how they felt.

My first “breakdown to breakthrough” came at a very uncomfortable time in my life. 

I find it important to be transparent, so here’s my story…

It’s January 2011. I went to Charlotte, NC for a retreat with a coach that I had met once before and had been conversing with. I was fearful to get on that plane and make this meeting happen, but I knew I needed to do something different to grow the business.

There I was, standing in the front of a room full of strangers and I was called out on what was not working in my business and what actions I would take to change that.

I felt the tears flowing, actually POURING, from my eyes.

I felt humiliated and embarrassed. I was not surrounded by people I knew, a community I felt comfortable with, or family I could count on. But, I realized those tears were exactly what I needed in that moment.

That breakthrough was paramount for me. I had been running a million dollar printing company and then all of a sudden when I started SSC, I wasn’t even selling $30K per year.

After the tears, the breakdown… I crossed $100K that year.  

I am so proud of the IML family. They supported one another through those very important, life-changing, defining breakthroughs. I know we are kicking off a great 2016!

Have you had a breakdown to breakthrough you want to share? Please do so on the SSC Facebook Page and LinkedIn page.