The Oscars, women and dreams

Living in LA for the past few weeks, coupled with the Oscars happening here on March 4th, I gotta tell you, the movie bug has really bit me! I’m trying to see as many nominated films as I can before the big night.

The amazing and powerful women in this industry inspired my newsletter this week.

If you don’t know the name, Greta Gerwig, you will. She is the 34-year-old director of Lady Bird, and not only is the movie nominated for Best Picture, Greta is nominated for Original Screenplay AND for Directing, the only woman in a category dominated by men. And it’s her debut film to boot.

Since 1929 when the Academy Awards began, ONE woman, yes only ONE has won for directing. That was Kathryn Bigelow for The Hurt Locker in 2010. In fact, only 5 women TOTAL have been nominated for directing.

We also see the first woman EVER nominated for Cinematography and that’s Rachel Morrison for Mudbound. Oscar history being made!

Greta was on The Ellen Show recently and she talked about not getting into any acting programs as an undergrad and not getting accepted into any graduate schools, either. What a difference the years have made and now she is sitting in a much different role than she probably could have ever imagined.

And Rachel was quoted in Newsweek saying, “This dream seemed impossible to me as recently as seven or eight years ago. To be in this boat really, to me, says anything’s possible.”

The lesson is very simple. We are all meant to do big things. We are all meant to make a mark in the world. Others will tell us we aren’t good enough, or we aren’t ready or we’re too young or too old or we won’t succeed, but they aren’t right.

If you know you are meant to change the world, I believe you will. Maybe it won’t be an Oscar sitting on your shelf, but instead, thank you notes from clients telling you how you changed their life. And those will be just as cherished.

If 2018 is your year, let’s get on the phone and discuss exactly what you want and how to get it. Email me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com and let me know when you want to chat.

Is she a superhero, or a skier?

Lindsey Vonn made her first Olympic appearance in 2002 at only 17 years old. By 2010, she was on top of the world – literally. One of the most popular and well-known women skiers of our time, winning a gold and a bronze in those games. Her path was never easy though. The world didn’t know at the time she was dealing with depression (had been for many years) and was going through a divorce.

She also suffered many injuries along the way, but none as heartbreaking as in 2013 when she tore her ACL, rendering her unable to compete in the 2014 Olympic Games.

But Vonn, ever the fighter, is back! It’s 2018 and Vonn is ready to show the world what she can still do at age 33.

What did this remind me of? It’s important to remember in business that even when things seems picture perfect for everyone else on the outside, it doesn’t mean that’s the case. We all have doubts of confidence, things we question, parts of business we excel at and other parts we do not. I loved a quote where Lindsey said, “When I’m on the hill, no one can touch me. I’m tough and determined and I believe in myself. But off the hill, I have a very difficult time feeling confident. I just never really feel good enough off the slope. Maybe that’s why I love skiing so much.”

Every single successful person deals with their own struggles. Whether those are internal or external factors, nobody walks a path without stumbling blocks.

What separates people is how they react to situations, good and bad, and how they move on and continue to follow their dream.

Maybe that dream is skiing down a mountain for another gold, like Lindsey, or that dream is building a profitable business that supports their family in the style of their dreams, finishing college, moving to another country to start a new life. You name it.

The Olympics always inspire me. Team USA has 242 athletes and 45% are women! Go girls! Ages on the entire team range from 17-39. What a span! It just goes to show that age is only a number and you are never too young or too old to go for it.

I encourage you to watch coverage of the games any chance you get. Every single athlete there, from every single country, has a story. I could write a newsletter an hour based on all the inspirational stories I have seen so far.

We talk all the time about doing the work and taking the actions. And that is definitely important. But it’s also important to never stop dreaming and reaching for ‘your’ gold medal. The best moments in our lives are those shared with family and friends in celebration.

If you’re ready to set a new plan in motion and you need a coach on your side, email me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com and let’s talk.

Is Your Mountain High Enough?

Diana Ross. Singer. Songwriter. Actress. Producer. Icon.

I stayed up way too late watching the American Music Awards Sunday night, but I am so glad I did! I have been a fan of Diana Ross since I was a kid. I saw her in concert several times, watched the Wiz tons of times, and yes, I was singing along last night.

Diana Ross was awarded the Lifetime Achievement Award. She walked down a sparkling silver staircase to the stage in a fabulous dress, performed a medley of some of her biggest hits, and reminded everyone what it’s really all about…love.

She invited her grandkids on stage with her to dance and sing, and laughed when one of them handed her her iconic fanny pack.

When the applause died down after her amazing performance and she began her speech, she invited her children on stage, along with some of the most important people in her life, like longtime friend Smokey Robinson and Motown founder Berry Gordy.

She was gracious and bursting with joy as she simply said,

“This is all about love, This is my family and I’m sending love out there to each and everyone one of you—our global family. I’m so humbled. I love you so very much and I think you know that. I really, really love you so very much and I will hold onto this beautiful honor. Thank you.”

In the times I saw her in concert and the many times I watched her in other forms, she always spoke the words “I love you.” You feel how much she truly loves her audience, fans and supporters. When we give that much love out to the universe we receive love back in abundance.

I was going to write about gratitude this week. But no words that I could come up with, would give the same impact as hearing Diana Ross on stage give us those words.

It really is all about love and family. Especially this week, as many of us come together with family and friends to celebrate and have a meal together.

I’m grateful for so much in my life.

My son is flying home, my daughter and husband are here, my mom is here and healthy and we are going to be 20 strong for Thanksgiving dinner, followed by a family weekend with a lot more food, a lot more laughs and memories to make.

Mom is on baking duty, lemon bars, cheesecake, chip cake, just to name a few of the desserts that she will make. And my homemade applesauce is already made, while sweet-n-sour meatballs are next up on the list.

I hope for you this week, you can take a step back from your workload, that time will slow down, that stress will lessen and you can sit at a table with those that you love and be present in that very precious moment.

If you want to watch Diana Ross perform and give her speech, you can check it out right here.

Happy Thanksgiving!

I only had 20 minutes…

I had 20 minutes to prepare a 1 minute business pitch. I was at the She Leads conference in NYC just last week and was chosen for one of these coveted spots.

I’m walking you through those 20 minutes and how it felt when opportunity knocked in an urgent time frame.

Minute 1-5 was complete confidence. Here we go, let’s do this!

I started to jot down what I knew I needed to include: My company name, the problem we solve, why to choose us and a solid call to action.

At minute 5 I felt a little more pressure and even began doubting some of the things I’d written down. I need a story in here, this sounds generic.

Keep in mind that this opportunity was only offered to a few of us at the event. We had to write the pitch during our lunch break (so you know I missed the awesome buffet) and was too afraid to run to the restroom, so I was uncomfortable all around.

But, exposure like this is big. By minute 6…Hey, suck it up and keep going.

I spent another 10 minutes writing, trying to be as succinct and powerful as I could, and the last 4 or so practicing, so I’d come off prepared and not staring at my notes.

The time came. I was sitting next to a woman who has going after me and she said, “Is your heart pounding as strong as mine.”

I said, “It sure is and it should be. If it wasn’t, we wouldn’t be committed.”

I pitched.

120 people in the room.

5 media representatives.

I did a lot of things well and I made a few mistakes.

Feedback was mixed.

You really know your stuff.
Not a strong call to action.
You needed a story.

The opportunity was fantastic. It gave me the chance to get advice from people that listen to pitches all day. It opened up new doors for me, as the next time I get offered a chance like this, I’ll be that much stronger.

Practicing. Learning. Improving.
Working ON your business. It never ends.

Every one these days is running a mastermind. At SSC, we are in our 9th year of masterminds and every time my amazing group of clients comes together, the results are eye-opening.

In fact, this week is our fall retreat for some of my existing clients. Don’t worry if you missed out on this one, just email me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com and I’ll let you know about other opportunities to come together with dynamic business women.

We pull leaders together, we collaborate, we grow, we change.

We show up and we continue to make a difference.

If you had to write your business pitch in 20 minutes and present it in front of over 100 people with 5 media experts, could you do it? If the thought gets you sweaty and nervous, let’s chat.

You can do this. Don’t miss out because you aren’t focused in.

Commit to the journey

“Dream big. Accomplish bigger.”

– Joi Gordon, CEO of Dress of Success

I had the honor of listening to Joi speak this past week at the 11th annual Women in Business: Making Change power breakfast to support Dress for Success.

If you know me, you know I’m not a breakfast person. I don’t eat eggs. Gasp, I know. So paying for a ticket to a breakfast event turns into one really expensive cup of coffee or tea BUT also turns into a morning full of inspiration and motivation.

Every time I get away from my desk, my screen, my phone and sit down in a room full of powerful and tenacious women, I can’t help but leave with a smile.

The overall message from the event centered around committing to the journey. Whatever journey you may be on. If you are an entrepreneur, if you are working your way up the corporate ladder, if you are in a career transition, it’s all the same. Stay the course.

Amanda K. Johnson, a woman who had participated in the Dress for Success program, spoke at the event about how a “no often turns into a yes”. She relayed the story of how she worked with Habitat for Humanity and when year two came around, she applied and was denied. This “no” turned into other opportunities.

She is smart, tenacious and currently working on her MBA in her industry. She works in the construction industry, typically a male-dominated field and she wants to see women feel empowered to step into positions in contracting.

The 20/20 movement was brought up several times, which is a national campaign to increase the percentage of women on U.S. company boards to 20% or greater by the year 2020. A fantastic movement and if you aren’t familiar with it, you can read all about it here.  Amanda wants to see 50% participation from women in 2020 in the construction field.  

Last week I talked about business “competition” and how we are really just partners for one another as we all go through obstacles and triumphs.

This event again reminded me what we can do together, as women, when we work together to put our talents into the world and believe in ourselves.

If you want a support system in place as you commit to your entrepreneurial journey, as you commit to leading your sales team, as you commit to creating a new life, please reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com and let’s start today.

SSC clients share their amazing success stories

What a summer! Our series on women leaders was so fun to write. And I thought the best way to end the series would be to feature a few Slater Success Mastery clients. These four women have graciously opened their hearts and shared a little about their journey.

 

“I had a regular corporate job, was moving up the ladder, everything was going fine, and then 11 years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. That made me look at the world differently and I realized what was important in life. It’s not what you have, it’s who you have and how you can make a difference in this world. Since that time I got divorced and started my own business. I am now a very, very happy person who sees the world with shining eyes. I’ve gone on cruises to Greece, bicycled through Hungary, rappelled down two buildings in Philadelphia and gone dog sledding in Canada. Why? Because I can! My business is booming. I love that I provide value to other businesses out there. I am a mom to awesome kids, a role I love, and life is good.”

-Amy Andersson, Owner, Price Turner CFOs

 

“It was never an easy road. I was born with a spinal deformity, an invisible disability. I have two children with Tourette’s Syndrome and my mom deals with various health problems. I feel like these challenges were given to me because I can handle them. I am worthy of the life I’ve created. I spent 17 years in the corporate world. I left what some would call a dream job (great salary, working from home) to find MY dream job. It took a lot of courage and support from those around me, people like Ivy, for me to take that step. She believed in me and the fact that I’ve been able to create a thriving 6-figure business in a short amount of time is testament to the work of coach and why I’m in this line of work myself.”

-Emily Golden, Mentor Coach & Affiliate, Accomplishment Coaching

 

“I left Washington DC three years ago to come to New York City. It was the scariest thing I ever did. I didn’t know anyone. I didn’t have a support system. It opened me up to a whole new world. I am most proud of this current chapter of my life, because it has given me the chance to carve out my own definition of womanhood. I come from a large family and a tight-knit community. It was hard to find my own identity at times. Creating my own business has given me leverage to do what I love to do and redefine my own story.
This chapter is all about creating my story in the city of my dreams, traveling to 10 countries, pursuing my current love of yoga, going to Broadway plays when I want and enjoying the freedom to live a life of which I’m proud. I’ve written two New York Times bestsellers, written with noted celebrities, artists, musicians and I pinch myself sometimes, thinking whose life is this? And then I say, this is my life. I get to own it, love it and love it with no apologies.”

-Leah Lakins, Founder & Editor, Fresh Eyes Editorial Services

“I’m excited about my new life as an entrepreneur. The corporate world was not lighting me up anymore after 20 years of watching the disconnect between manager and employee. I knew there was something else I was meant to do. I could help people. I could do something better. I could make people want to show up for work on Monday morning. As long as you keep showing up, great things happen. Only losers quit. I believe we are all winners, it’s why I named my business the way that I did, and how we reach our dreams is our own unique story.”

-Kathy D’Agostino, Owner, Win at Business Coaching

She created it, millions would wear it…

It was 1974 and a young, Belgian-born designer had been living in New York for a few years trying to begin a career in fashion.

Then, it happened.

Her name: Diane von Furstenberg.

Her creation: the wrap dress.

By 1976, she sold 5 million of those iconic dresses.

She was at the top of the world and women everywhere were sporting this flattering, gorgeous dress.

Her brand, DVF for short, did have it’s share of challenges. Furstenberg even left the fashion world for years and had to relaunch her brand and regain her reputation.

She has said she was more interested in just diving in, than creating a plan, and that caused problems.

Of course, something I always talk about. Make sure your vision and plans are solid and then work the actions daily to accomplish the ultimate goals.

Her relaunch was successful and Furstenberg is still a powerhouse in the fashion industry.

If you are still looking for a great summer read, pick up Furstenberg’s memoir, The Woman I Wanted to Be (A New York Times Bestseller). It’s inspirational and fascinating reading about her childhood, her early years in fashion, her time as a princess (yep, did you know about that?) building a global brand and even beating cancer.

In 2012, she launched a children’s line with Gap and I read a quote that really stuck out to me.

“The minute a little girl is born, she is already the woman she will be. So to empower a little girl is to empower the woman she will become.” -Diane von Furstenberg

What a great message! All the young women in this world deserve strong role models in all industries. Corporate, fashion, engineering, art, music, culinary, you name it. This is the heart of Slater Success. Of course, Diane von Furstenberg’s quote also brought me back to birthing my daughter Alexandra 25 years ago and thinking of the woman she has become.

Furstenberg is a huge supporter of other women and empowering women and we can all learn a lesson from her. Support the amazing women around you and believe that anything is possible.

If you are want to talk about your dreams and how to get there, reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

The one and only…Oprah

Oprah. Winfrey.

One amazing woman and my focus for this week’s women in leadership summer series.

Oprah was born into poverty as the daughter of a Mississippi single, teenage mother in 1954. (Actually, her birth name was Orpah, from the Book of Ruth in the bible, but it was misspelled and mispronounced so much that Oprah stuck).

She suffered sexual abuse from relatives, was made fun of in school because of her clothing and received more care from her grandmother than her own mother.

After a very troubled childhood, she began to thrive in high school, becoming an honor student and working for a radio station her senior year.

She started her journey in media, becoming a news anchor, a co-host of a local talk show, and eventually the host of a Chicago morning show hurting for ratings. When Oprah took the lead, the show skyrocketed into popularity and thus, The Oprah Winfrey Show was born in 1986. If I am doing my math correctly, WOW at 32 years old, this is a women who earns your respect and a role model for us all. Her show ran until 2011, a wildly impressive 25 years.

She has interviewed some of the biggest names in the world, runs a successful book club, started her own magazine and of course, OWN, her television network launched in 2011. She’s starred in movies and produced a Tony Award-winning Broadway musical.

She’s also raised and donated millions of dollars to charitable programs with causes like girls’ education and relief for victims of Hurricane Katrina.

She was the recipient of the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2013.

Her list of accomplishments is by far one of the greatest lists by any woman this century. Her beautiful and caring personality, her desire to give back and help others and the powerful role model she is for all women is truly inspiring.

Oprah has so many great quotes, but here are two of my favorites…

“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey

Oprah is surely an example of those words. Her success is unmatched. Remember that quote as you prepare to get to the the next level of your business and career.

“Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” – Oprah Winfrey

I love this!

Surround yourself with support. If your support is building a business, support at home, with family. I look at my dry cleaners as part of my support team. With my busy speaking and traveling schedule, Josh always has my back. If you need someone to talk to about your business, please reach out.

And share with me on the SSC Facebook page your favorite Oprah quote!

I want to be friends with Barbara…

I think we’d get along really well, both New Yorkers, both women, moms and business owners.

I’m fascinated at her background, growing up in a family of ten children that dealt with financial struggles and how she went on to become a millionaire investor and real estate mogul.

I’d love to chat with her about the 22 jobs she had before she decided to open a real estate office at the young age of 23 and how she grew it to a $6 billion dollar business. Even more impressive is that she started that business with only a $1,000 loan.

I want to pick her brain about leading a team, creating an empire, speaking at huge events, writing successful books, investing in new ideas, being a television personality and of course, her amazing style.

So who is this friend I’d love to have?

I’m talking about Barbara Corcoran.

She is a woman I was super excited to talk about in this summer series of women leaders. You know her from Shark Tank, and I encourage you to look up more information about this dynamic woman.

If you have Twitter, follow her. Her tweets are so often motivational and powerful messages. One of my favorite quotes comes from this lady…

“Don’t you dare underestimate the power of your own instinct.” – Barbara Corcoran

This is a great message to remember whether you are a company of one or a company of thousands. Listen to your gut.

Barbara wasn’t handed success, she earned it. And a big part of that is because she listened to her own instinct time and time again. She has been quoted in articles saying that she knew she didn’t want to work for anybody else, so becoming an entrepreneur was the answer.

I think it’s safe to say she made the right career choice.

Whether you work in your home office alone or lead a large corporate team, remember why you started doing what you are doing. And listen to yourself when you need to make the next big decision. If you want someone to talk to, I’m here. Schedule a call.

I’ll leave you with another great quote from Barbara…

“Finding opportunity is a matter of believing it’s there.” – Barbara Corcoran

Believe it’s there and make this week count.

Their powerful words and their brave actions…

As America celebrates the fourth of July, I thought I’d focus on a few powerful women in American history for the continuation of our summer series on women leaders.

I was astounded reading the accomplishments of so many women from our past and I wish I could share them all. If you have a moment, just Google a list of women who shaped America and lose yourself in the awesomeness of these ladies.

I wanted to share about three of those women today and share some of their words.

Harriet Tubman is the definition of courage and strength. Born into slavery in 1822, she later escaped and guided many slaves to freedom using a network of antislavery activists and safe houses known as the Underground Railroad. Tubman was the first woman to lead an armed expedition in the war. Just last year, the U.S. Treasury Department was discussing a plan for Tubman to become the new face of the $20 bill.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”
– Harriet Tubman

Amelia Earhart is a prime example of taking action on your dreams. She was born in 1897 and would go on to become the first female aviator to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. She wrote best-selling books about her travels and set many aviation records.

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.”
– Amelia Earhart

Eleanor Roosevelt is an example of standing up for what you believe in. She was born in 1884 and was the longest-serving First Lady of the United States. She spoke out about roles for women in the workforce, as well as the civil rights of African Americans and Asian Americans.

“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Roosevelt and Earhart were actually good friends. Roosevelt even getting a student permit with aspirations of learning to fly. That didn’t happen, but the two remained close. I’d love to have been a guest at lunch with these two women, wouldn’t you? The conversations they must have had!

All of these women inspire me as a business owner and a woman in 2017.
They were the true trailblazers.

Be courageous, take action, stand up for what you believe in.
Simple advice, but not always easy to follow.

Tell me about your female idol from American history!