Not what I expected

August looked really different for me than usual. For many of you, August meant your kids were going back to school, you were going back to school, your friends or family had kids going back to school. And for me, well, this is the first time in 20 years that I didn’t have a child headed to school.

I already miss it.

I miss the excitement. I miss the getting ready, the shopping for supplies, the gearing up for committees I was going to be on, the camaraderie of the other mothers.

As I sit here on the other side, I’m enjoying the experience through some of the moms on my team. Tara’s oldest just started first grade and Sonaya just moved to a new country and is researching day care with potential preschool options and support systems for working mothers.

Another reason August looked really different for me was because of the amount of time I took off.

My mom fell on August 1st and this completely shifted my plans for the month.

I have always prioritized my life as family first and created the businesses and careers that supported this priority.

I’m grateful that I’ve prioritized things this way.

Sure, I’ve been absent on social media, haven’t posted family photos, or even take any recently.

I’m backed up with work for SSC that was planned for August. A new website, new content for downloads on the website, writing, videos…nothing got done.

I have a large belief from where I teach that says, everyday I start with, “Today I Can.”

And that philosophy has been really important the entire month of August.

I worked from home, instead of my office, to be closer to my Mom.

I let go of judgment that I was not accomplishing what I expected to even though it was difficult and definitely a journey.

What I learned from the experience?

I am still in business.

I closed two new clients.

I had a great month financially.

I believe these things happened because I stayed true to my beliefs, even when it was a challenge and I was nervous and worried about my Mom.

She is doing well and getting back on her feet and we enjoyed some fun together last week that was really needed.

I’m also getting back on my “business feet” and revisiting my August tasks that are simply now September ones.

If circumstances change in your life, it’s going to be alright. Navigate and adapt.

Have you experienced a month or a year like my August? Tell me about it and share how you got through and what you learned on the SSC Facebook page.

If you ever want to chat in more detail about your business, don’t hesitate to email me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

SSC clients share their amazing success stories

What a summer! Our series on women leaders was so fun to write. And I thought the best way to end the series would be to feature a few Slater Success Mastery clients. These four women have graciously opened their hearts and shared a little about their journey.

 

“I had a regular corporate job, was moving up the ladder, everything was going fine, and then 11 years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. That made me look at the world differently and I realized what was important in life. It’s not what you have, it’s who you have and how you can make a difference in this world. Since that time I got divorced and started my own business. I am now a very, very happy person who sees the world with shining eyes. I’ve gone on cruises to Greece, bicycled through Hungary, rappelled down two buildings in Philadelphia and gone dog sledding in Canada. Why? Because I can! My business is booming. I love that I provide value to other businesses out there. I am a mom to awesome kids, a role I love, and life is good.”

-Amy Andersson, Owner, Price Turner CFOs

 

“It was never an easy road. I was born with a spinal deformity, an invisible disability. I have two children with Tourette’s Syndrome and my mom deals with various health problems. I feel like these challenges were given to me because I can handle them. I am worthy of the life I’ve created. I spent 17 years in the corporate world. I left what some would call a dream job (great salary, working from home) to find MY dream job. It took a lot of courage and support from those around me, people like Ivy, for me to take that step. She believed in me and the fact that I’ve been able to create a thriving 6-figure business in a short amount of time is testament to the work of coach and why I’m in this line of work myself.”

-Emily Golden, Mentor Coach & Affiliate, Accomplishment Coaching

 

“I left Washington DC three years ago to come to New York City. It was the scariest thing I ever did. I didn’t know anyone. I didn’t have a support system. It opened me up to a whole new world. I am most proud of this current chapter of my life, because it has given me the chance to carve out my own definition of womanhood. I come from a large family and a tight-knit community. It was hard to find my own identity at times. Creating my own business has given me leverage to do what I love to do and redefine my own story.
This chapter is all about creating my story in the city of my dreams, traveling to 10 countries, pursuing my current love of yoga, going to Broadway plays when I want and enjoying the freedom to live a life of which I’m proud. I’ve written two New York Times bestsellers, written with noted celebrities, artists, musicians and I pinch myself sometimes, thinking whose life is this? And then I say, this is my life. I get to own it, love it and love it with no apologies.”

-Leah Lakins, Founder & Editor, Fresh Eyes Editorial Services

“I’m excited about my new life as an entrepreneur. The corporate world was not lighting me up anymore after 20 years of watching the disconnect between manager and employee. I knew there was something else I was meant to do. I could help people. I could do something better. I could make people want to show up for work on Monday morning. As long as you keep showing up, great things happen. Only losers quit. I believe we are all winners, it’s why I named my business the way that I did, and how we reach our dreams is our own unique story.”

-Kathy D’Agostino, Owner, Win at Business Coaching

She created it, millions would wear it…

It was 1974 and a young, Belgian-born designer had been living in New York for a few years trying to begin a career in fashion.

Then, it happened.

Her name: Diane von Furstenberg.

Her creation: the wrap dress.

By 1976, she sold 5 million of those iconic dresses.

She was at the top of the world and women everywhere were sporting this flattering, gorgeous dress.

Her brand, DVF for short, did have it’s share of challenges. Furstenberg even left the fashion world for years and had to relaunch her brand and regain her reputation.

She has said she was more interested in just diving in, than creating a plan, and that caused problems.

Of course, something I always talk about. Make sure your vision and plans are solid and then work the actions daily to accomplish the ultimate goals.

Her relaunch was successful and Furstenberg is still a powerhouse in the fashion industry.

If you are still looking for a great summer read, pick up Furstenberg’s memoir, The Woman I Wanted to Be (A New York Times Bestseller). It’s inspirational and fascinating reading about her childhood, her early years in fashion, her time as a princess (yep, did you know about that?) building a global brand and even beating cancer.

In 2012, she launched a children’s line with Gap and I read a quote that really stuck out to me.

“The minute a little girl is born, she is already the woman she will be. So to empower a little girl is to empower the woman she will become.” -Diane von Furstenberg

What a great message! All the young women in this world deserve strong role models in all industries. Corporate, fashion, engineering, art, music, culinary, you name it. This is the heart of Slater Success. Of course, Diane von Furstenberg’s quote also brought me back to birthing my daughter Alexandra 25 years ago and thinking of the woman she has become.

Furstenberg is a huge supporter of other women and empowering women and we can all learn a lesson from her. Support the amazing women around you and believe that anything is possible.

If you are want to talk about your dreams and how to get there, reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

She saw it all on the train that day…

I talk about having a vision for your business all the time. It’s important to know where you are going, what the next steps looks like and what actions you need to take to get to that vision.

An amazing example of vision, and the next focus in our women leaders summer series, is the story of J.K. Rowling.

Most of you hear that name today and are transported into the world of Harry Potter. Books, movies, theme parks, merchandise, beloved characters that changed our world forever. In 2004, Forbes named Rowling as the first person to become a U.S.dollar billionaire by writing books.

But how did it all happen?

Rowling was an avid reader and writer from a very young age. She has said that writing is all she ever wanted to do. The vision of Harry Potter came to her while she was sitting on a delayed train when she was 25 years old. She has said in interviews that she was flooded with ideas in a moment and had no pen! She ended up drafting the rest of the series (all 7 books) over the next five years.

At this same time, she divorced from her first husband and was acting as a single mother to their small child. She was on state benefits and was writing anywhere she could find space, such as small cafes.

I was watching an interview Rowling had with Oprah a few years ago and she said she was walking away from the cafe where she was writing the first Harry Potter book and she heard a voice of sorts tell her the difficult thing would be getting the book published, but if it did get published, it would be huge. She went on to say that “you’ve gotta believe, haven’t you?” She said she didn’t have much self belief at the time, but this ONE thing, she did believe in.

That is truly goosebump inducing! And so important for us to remember.

Have a vision.

Believe in that vision.

Go after that vision.

J.K. Rowling is one amazing woman and I encourage you to read more about her life and all the charity work she does for causes and organizations.

If you are ready to develop your vision, take action on your vision or realize your vision, reach out to me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

I want to be friends with Barbara (again)

A few weeks ago I wrote a post titled,”I want to be friends with Barbara,” and as I wrote this one, I realized I could use the exact same title.

This time in our summer series of women leaders, it’s Barbara Walters.
Barbara’s father was a booking agent and she was surrounded by famous people from a very young age, which made it easier for her to feel comfortable and not as star struck around them.

The family moved around often from Massachusetts to New York to Florida and back again. Barbara graduated from Sarah Lawrence and began her career at an advertising agency.

She got into television, first as a writer and producer and found herself at NBC’s Today Show in 1961 working as a writer and researcher. She worked her way up, becoming a “Today Girl” and then eventually becoming the first female co-host. This was 1974! A women covering hard hitting news stories was not as common as it is today. Barbara set the stage for many women.

You hear the name Barbara Walters and maybe it’s her 10 Most Fascinating People special that comes to mind. A special that ran from 1993-2015, and featured world leaders, celebrities, entrepreneurs and many other names that had us glued to our television screens.

Or maybe it’s her work on The View, which she co-created, co-produced and co-hosted.

Maybe you’ve read her book, “How To Talk With Practically Anybody About Practically Anything,” originally published in 1970. That book has sold hundreds of thousands of copies worldwide and has even been translated into six different languages.

Or maybe it’s those classic SNL skits, when the amazing Gilda Radner portrayed Barbara. You know you’ve made it and are loved when you make SNL!

Barbara has moderated presidential debates, she has a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame and she has won Daytime and Primetime Emmy awards, just to name a few of her accomplishments.

To me, Barbara’s story teaches us to keep going and keep dreaming and keep working and keep changing the world.

She began her career in a male-dominated industry and made a name for herself by having a strong work ethic, confidence and belief in her value and her talents. Wow, in the work I have done with women over the past 10 years, our biggest struggle is owning our value and believing in ourselves. We women need leaders just like Barbara to model after. The more I follow her, the more I am inspired by her.

I found this quote that I had to share…

“ One may walk over the highest mountain one step at a time.” – Barbara Walters

Keep walking on your path. Celebrate each milestone. You are doing great things. If you want to talk about your next big step, feel free to reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

I want my Starbucks and I don’t care who knows it

There we were, getting our son Bryce moved into his new apartment in California and exhaustion from travel was starting to set in.

I needed coffee. And I needed it fast.

My husband said he saw a few coffee shops in the area and started to look on his phone for options when I quickly stopped him.
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“I need coffee, but more importantly, I need Starbucks,” I told him.

He glanced over at with me a small smirk as I pulled out my phone and opened the Starbucks app.

I simply knew what I wanted and that was Starbucks non-fat latte, extra hot. I’m not just a casual visitor at Starbucks, I’m a lifelong customer.

When you’re dealing with clients, you don’t want the client that comes in for a quick visit and never returns.

You want the client that continues to come to your organization for their business needs. You want to build a loyal and trusting relationship. You want to be the ‘go to.”

You can do that by being present, available, helpful and consistent.

I know when I walk into Starbucks and order my drink, it’s going to be exactly what I want and what I need.

Make sure your clients see your organization as a resource they need in their life.

Be present: Follow-up and say hello. A phone call goes a long way. Your sales team should be making these calls often.

Be available: Lend a hand, help with a promotion, sponsor a trade show. Do what you can as an organization to show your support.

Be helpful: Connect clients with other contacts and get them business. It’s a win-win all around.

Be consistent: Ensure you and your team are doing good work that makes an impact. It’s easy to sell something people already want.

Going back to our women in leadership series, Starbucks has quite a few women at the top.

In fact, a quick check of their website and I counted 19 women in senior Vice President, executive Vice President and other leadership roles, covering everything from creative development, to marketing and finance.

Starbucks has also stated that male and female employees doing the same job are paid within 99.7% of one another.

What fantastic news and a great example of a company working to stop the gender
wage gap.

So, next time you stop into my office for a visit, if you want to bring me my grande latte, (remember non-fat and extra hot), that would be pretty awesome.

If you want to talk about building and nurturing relationships, please reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

The one and only…Oprah

Oprah. Winfrey.

One amazing woman and my focus for this week’s women in leadership summer series.

Oprah was born into poverty as the daughter of a Mississippi single, teenage mother in 1954. (Actually, her birth name was Orpah, from the Book of Ruth in the bible, but it was misspelled and mispronounced so much that Oprah stuck).

She suffered sexual abuse from relatives, was made fun of in school because of her clothing and received more care from her grandmother than her own mother.

After a very troubled childhood, she began to thrive in high school, becoming an honor student and working for a radio station her senior year.

She started her journey in media, becoming a news anchor, a co-host of a local talk show, and eventually the host of a Chicago morning show hurting for ratings. When Oprah took the lead, the show skyrocketed into popularity and thus, The Oprah Winfrey Show was born in 1986. If I am doing my math correctly, WOW at 32 years old, this is a women who earns your respect and a role model for us all. Her show ran until 2011, a wildly impressive 25 years.

She has interviewed some of the biggest names in the world, runs a successful book club, started her own magazine and of course, OWN, her television network launched in 2011. She’s starred in movies and produced a Tony Award-winning Broadway musical.

She’s also raised and donated millions of dollars to charitable programs with causes like girls’ education and relief for victims of Hurricane Katrina.

She was the recipient of the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2013.

Her list of accomplishments is by far one of the greatest lists by any woman this century. Her beautiful and caring personality, her desire to give back and help others and the powerful role model she is for all women is truly inspiring.

Oprah has so many great quotes, but here are two of my favorites…

“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey

Oprah is surely an example of those words. Her success is unmatched. Remember that quote as you prepare to get to the the next level of your business and career.

“Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” – Oprah Winfrey

I love this!

Surround yourself with support. If your support is building a business, support at home, with family. I look at my dry cleaners as part of my support team. With my busy speaking and traveling schedule, Josh always has my back. If you need someone to talk to about your business, please reach out.

And share with me on the SSC Facebook page your favorite Oprah quote!

Lessons learned, relinquishing control

Taking a short break from our summer series on women leaders to talk about some exciting news at Slater Success Coaching! As you may have heard, we are working on a brand new website, and along with new content comes new images!

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of spending the day with Kia Dyson, who happens to be the graphic designer for the new website AND also a photographer! I wanted to share a few behind the scenes photos and my biggest takeaway from the experience.
Want to know the hardest part for me?

No, it wasn’t being in front of the camera. I actually really enjoy that. As a former dancer, taking photos was always part of the gig.

No, it wasn’t being out in the heat and worrying about makeup, hair and clothing. I was really comfortable and had a fabulous make-up artist, Jody Formica, with me for the day, who I’ve worked with before on live events.

It was simply relinquishing control.

Yep. I had to trust and let the great people I hired do their job.

Kia is super professional and she asked me the right questions about the look and feel I wanted for the new site. She even had a technical conversation with the make-up artist about lighting she would use and the style that was our goal, something totally out of my realm of knowledge. She was all about sticking to the SSC brand, because she knows it. She’s part of it.

I’m not used to surrendering total control. I’m not going to lie, it took a lot of effort. But when I peeked into the lens and saw some of the results, I was really excited.

Lesson for the day is that micromanagement does not make for great leadership. It slows down the entire work process. We’ve all found ourselves in situations where a manager or leader didn’t fully trust us and it caused us to doubt ourselves and our ability. And maybe as a manger, we’ve done a little micromanagement of our own team when it was totally unnecessary.

Let go.

Trust.

Believe.

I have a wonderful team supporting me in my every day and I had a wonderful team supporting me yesterday.

Now, if I could only get my makeup and hair done every day, that would really be the dream!

Let me know what you think about the new photos on the SSC Facebook page.

I want to be friends with Barbara…

I think we’d get along really well, both New Yorkers, both women, moms and business owners.

I’m fascinated at her background, growing up in a family of ten children that dealt with financial struggles and how she went on to become a millionaire investor and real estate mogul.

I’d love to chat with her about the 22 jobs she had before she decided to open a real estate office at the young age of 23 and how she grew it to a $6 billion dollar business. Even more impressive is that she started that business with only a $1,000 loan.

I want to pick her brain about leading a team, creating an empire, speaking at huge events, writing successful books, investing in new ideas, being a television personality and of course, her amazing style.

So who is this friend I’d love to have?

I’m talking about Barbara Corcoran.

She is a woman I was super excited to talk about in this summer series of women leaders. You know her from Shark Tank, and I encourage you to look up more information about this dynamic woman.

If you have Twitter, follow her. Her tweets are so often motivational and powerful messages. One of my favorite quotes comes from this lady…

“Don’t you dare underestimate the power of your own instinct.” – Barbara Corcoran

This is a great message to remember whether you are a company of one or a company of thousands. Listen to your gut.

Barbara wasn’t handed success, she earned it. And a big part of that is because she listened to her own instinct time and time again. She has been quoted in articles saying that she knew she didn’t want to work for anybody else, so becoming an entrepreneur was the answer.

I think it’s safe to say she made the right career choice.

Whether you work in your home office alone or lead a large corporate team, remember why you started doing what you are doing. And listen to yourself when you need to make the next big decision. If you want someone to talk to, I’m here. Schedule a call.

I’ll leave you with another great quote from Barbara…

“Finding opportunity is a matter of believing it’s there.” – Barbara Corcoran

Believe it’s there and make this week count.

Their powerful words and their brave actions…

As America celebrates the fourth of July, I thought I’d focus on a few powerful women in American history for the continuation of our summer series on women leaders.

I was astounded reading the accomplishments of so many women from our past and I wish I could share them all. If you have a moment, just Google a list of women who shaped America and lose yourself in the awesomeness of these ladies.

I wanted to share about three of those women today and share some of their words.

Harriet Tubman is the definition of courage and strength. Born into slavery in 1822, she later escaped and guided many slaves to freedom using a network of antislavery activists and safe houses known as the Underground Railroad. Tubman was the first woman to lead an armed expedition in the war. Just last year, the U.S. Treasury Department was discussing a plan for Tubman to become the new face of the $20 bill.

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”
– Harriet Tubman

Amelia Earhart is a prime example of taking action on your dreams. She was born in 1897 and would go on to become the first female aviator to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean. She wrote best-selling books about her travels and set many aviation records.

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.”
– Amelia Earhart

Eleanor Roosevelt is an example of standing up for what you believe in. She was born in 1884 and was the longest-serving First Lady of the United States. She spoke out about roles for women in the workforce, as well as the civil rights of African Americans and Asian Americans.

“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Roosevelt and Earhart were actually good friends. Roosevelt even getting a student permit with aspirations of learning to fly. That didn’t happen, but the two remained close. I’d love to have been a guest at lunch with these two women, wouldn’t you? The conversations they must have had!

All of these women inspire me as a business owner and a woman in 2017.
They were the true trailblazers.

Be courageous, take action, stand up for what you believe in.
Simple advice, but not always easy to follow.

Tell me about your female idol from American history!