I did it for her…why can’t I do it for myself?

SSC has worked with both entrepreneurs and corporate clients for many years. I had made a decision to put as many marketing efforts towards the corporate clients as I have put to the small businesses.

Currently, our marketing is geared towards one owner, often building out their first team, with messages that are more personal. It was time to up and expand our game in the marketing arena, sharing the full scope of the work we do.

As we build our new website and want to share about the various types of work we do, it’s been a struggle creating the marketing copy to support these efforts. Yes, sometimes even finding your own voice can be a challenge.

How do we speak to both audiences?
What are the main differences?
Do women in both of these areas have the same struggles?

When we sit down and talk over a cup of coffee, the main thing women seem to chat about differently than men, but the same as one another, is money.

Women take on many levels of responsibility: kids, activities, charities, etc. and our calendars tend to remain full.

Just last week, I was working with a successful business woman on building out the next extension of her business. She said to me, “Wow, this has all been floating around in my head for ages and today working together made it all clear to me.”

I was elated for her, but confused for myself. The marketing, the voice, the actions. Was I losing my touch? I couldn’t figure out my own stuff, just everybody elses? Then I realized, I am just too close to it. And when you are too close to something, it’s easy to lose clarity and perspective. Even my team is too close to it.

So, I took action and reached out to a colleague and great friend as we have built our businesses together over the years, always supporting one another.

My email said HELP: I need clarity, perspective and someone smart whose heart is not closely connected, can you talk?

Guess what, we are scheduled to chat later this week and I know this will get me into motion and out of my own way.

Who is your go to when you need clarity? A coach, a mentor, a friend?

If you need someone, I am happy to be there for you. I’m just a phone call or email away. You can reach me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com anytime.

Never stay stuck.
You and your business are going places!

Making Decisions

The first thing I want to say is that I am sending prayers and well wishes to everyone affected by the scary weather situations happening in our world.

The decision. Do I stay or do I go? The ultimate question on the minds of so many in the past few days and weeks, as Hurricane Irma was set to begin her destructive path.

My aunt left to go back to Florida after spending Labor Day here in New York City for a family reunion. Even though the family wanted her to stay, her decision was that it was important for her to be home. She lives in the Palm Beach County area and got to a safe place for the storm.

Other family members in the area include a young couple, expecting their first child. They packed the car and headed to Orlando, also making backup reservations in Atlanta.

When they made this decision, no one expected Irma to head in this direction. They made their decision and took action.

Many people stayed. Many people left. It was their decision.

Of course, all decisions come with multiple factors. There is often no right and no wrong, there is only the best decision in that given moment. We can then make the next decision and the next decision.

The smart way to approach any decision, whether it’s about a storm, a family situation, a business opportunity – is not to make a panicked one. Look around the strategy around the decision, the opportunity and best case scenarios.

It’s easy to be taken over with fear, and frankly feeling the OMG that is often around decisions and the pressure of making a great, smart, perfect one. The best thing to do is remain focused and look at all the options available.

Talk to others, find support, ask questions, in the questions the various or best potential answers arise.

You don’t have to make the decision alone and always trust your gut.

Don’t stay in indecision. You must come to a resolution.

Every day you are faced with decisions. Some are small and some are major. It’s something we have to learn to do as business owners, parents, leaders, etc.

Be informed and never hesitate to ask for help.

Not what I expected

August looked really different for me than usual. For many of you, August meant your kids were going back to school, you were going back to school, your friends or family had kids going back to school. And for me, well, this is the first time in 20 years that I didn’t have a child headed to school.

I already miss it.

I miss the excitement. I miss the getting ready, the shopping for supplies, the gearing up for committees I was going to be on, the camaraderie of the other mothers.

As I sit here on the other side, I’m enjoying the experience through some of the moms on my team. Tara’s oldest just started first grade and Sonaya just moved to a new country and is researching day care with potential preschool options and support systems for working mothers.

Another reason August looked really different for me was because of the amount of time I took off.

My mom fell on August 1st and this completely shifted my plans for the month.

I have always prioritized my life as family first and created the businesses and careers that supported this priority.

I’m grateful that I’ve prioritized things this way.

Sure, I’ve been absent on social media, haven’t posted family photos, or even take any recently.

I’m backed up with work for SSC that was planned for August. A new website, new content for downloads on the website, writing, videos…nothing got done.

I have a large belief from where I teach that says, everyday I start with, “Today I Can.”

And that philosophy has been really important the entire month of August.

I worked from home, instead of my office, to be closer to my Mom.

I let go of judgment that I was not accomplishing what I expected to even though it was difficult and definitely a journey.

What I learned from the experience?

I am still in business.

I closed two new clients.

I had a great month financially.

I believe these things happened because I stayed true to my beliefs, even when it was a challenge and I was nervous and worried about my Mom.

She is doing well and getting back on her feet and we enjoyed some fun together last week that was really needed.

I’m also getting back on my “business feet” and revisiting my August tasks that are simply now September ones.

If circumstances change in your life, it’s going to be alright. Navigate and adapt.

Have you experienced a month or a year like my August? Tell me about it and share how you got through and what you learned on the SSC Facebook page.

If you ever want to chat in more detail about your business, don’t hesitate to email me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

SSC clients share their amazing success stories

What a summer! Our series on women leaders was so fun to write. And I thought the best way to end the series would be to feature a few Slater Success Mastery clients. These four women have graciously opened their hearts and shared a little about their journey.

 

“I had a regular corporate job, was moving up the ladder, everything was going fine, and then 11 years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer. That made me look at the world differently and I realized what was important in life. It’s not what you have, it’s who you have and how you can make a difference in this world. Since that time I got divorced and started my own business. I am now a very, very happy person who sees the world with shining eyes. I’ve gone on cruises to Greece, bicycled through Hungary, rappelled down two buildings in Philadelphia and gone dog sledding in Canada. Why? Because I can! My business is booming. I love that I provide value to other businesses out there. I am a mom to awesome kids, a role I love, and life is good.”

-Amy Andersson, Owner, Price Turner CFOs

 

“It was never an easy road. I was born with a spinal deformity, an invisible disability. I have two children with Tourette’s Syndrome and my mom deals with various health problems. I feel like these challenges were given to me because I can handle them. I am worthy of the life I’ve created. I spent 17 years in the corporate world. I left what some would call a dream job (great salary, working from home) to find MY dream job. It took a lot of courage and support from those around me, people like Ivy, for me to take that step. She believed in me and the fact that I’ve been able to create a thriving 6-figure business in a short amount of time is testament to the work of coach and why I’m in this line of work myself.”

-Emily Golden, Mentor Coach & Affiliate, Accomplishment Coaching

 

“I left Washington DC three years ago to come to New York City. It was the scariest thing I ever did. I didn’t know anyone. I didn’t have a support system. It opened me up to a whole new world. I am most proud of this current chapter of my life, because it has given me the chance to carve out my own definition of womanhood. I come from a large family and a tight-knit community. It was hard to find my own identity at times. Creating my own business has given me leverage to do what I love to do and redefine my own story.
This chapter is all about creating my story in the city of my dreams, traveling to 10 countries, pursuing my current love of yoga, going to Broadway plays when I want and enjoying the freedom to live a life of which I’m proud. I’ve written two New York Times bestsellers, written with noted celebrities, artists, musicians and I pinch myself sometimes, thinking whose life is this? And then I say, this is my life. I get to own it, love it and love it with no apologies.”

-Leah Lakins, Founder & Editor, Fresh Eyes Editorial Services

“I’m excited about my new life as an entrepreneur. The corporate world was not lighting me up anymore after 20 years of watching the disconnect between manager and employee. I knew there was something else I was meant to do. I could help people. I could do something better. I could make people want to show up for work on Monday morning. As long as you keep showing up, great things happen. Only losers quit. I believe we are all winners, it’s why I named my business the way that I did, and how we reach our dreams is our own unique story.”

-Kathy D’Agostino, Owner, Win at Business Coaching

She created it, millions would wear it…

It was 1974 and a young, Belgian-born designer had been living in New York for a few years trying to begin a career in fashion.

Then, it happened.

Her name: Diane von Furstenberg.

Her creation: the wrap dress.

By 1976, she sold 5 million of those iconic dresses.

She was at the top of the world and women everywhere were sporting this flattering, gorgeous dress.

Her brand, DVF for short, did have it’s share of challenges. Furstenberg even left the fashion world for years and had to relaunch her brand and regain her reputation.

She has said she was more interested in just diving in, than creating a plan, and that caused problems.

Of course, something I always talk about. Make sure your vision and plans are solid and then work the actions daily to accomplish the ultimate goals.

Her relaunch was successful and Furstenberg is still a powerhouse in the fashion industry.

If you are still looking for a great summer read, pick up Furstenberg’s memoir, The Woman I Wanted to Be (A New York Times Bestseller). It’s inspirational and fascinating reading about her childhood, her early years in fashion, her time as a princess (yep, did you know about that?) building a global brand and even beating cancer.

In 2012, she launched a children’s line with Gap and I read a quote that really stuck out to me.

“The minute a little girl is born, she is already the woman she will be. So to empower a little girl is to empower the woman she will become.” -Diane von Furstenberg

What a great message! All the young women in this world deserve strong role models in all industries. Corporate, fashion, engineering, art, music, culinary, you name it. This is the heart of Slater Success. Of course, Diane von Furstenberg’s quote also brought me back to birthing my daughter Alexandra 25 years ago and thinking of the woman she has become.

Furstenberg is a huge supporter of other women and empowering women and we can all learn a lesson from her. Support the amazing women around you and believe that anything is possible.

If you are want to talk about your dreams and how to get there, reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

She saw it all on the train that day…

I talk about having a vision for your business all the time. It’s important to know where you are going, what the next steps looks like and what actions you need to take to get to that vision.

An amazing example of vision, and the next focus in our women leaders summer series, is the story of J.K. Rowling.

Most of you hear that name today and are transported into the world of Harry Potter. Books, movies, theme parks, merchandise, beloved characters that changed our world forever. In 2004, Forbes named Rowling as the first person to become a U.S.dollar billionaire by writing books.

But how did it all happen?

Rowling was an avid reader and writer from a very young age. She has said that writing is all she ever wanted to do. The vision of Harry Potter came to her while she was sitting on a delayed train when she was 25 years old. She has said in interviews that she was flooded with ideas in a moment and had no pen! She ended up drafting the rest of the series (all 7 books) over the next five years.

At this same time, she divorced from her first husband and was acting as a single mother to their small child. She was on state benefits and was writing anywhere she could find space, such as small cafes.

I was watching an interview Rowling had with Oprah a few years ago and she said she was walking away from the cafe where she was writing the first Harry Potter book and she heard a voice of sorts tell her the difficult thing would be getting the book published, but if it did get published, it would be huge. She went on to say that “you’ve gotta believe, haven’t you?” She said she didn’t have much self belief at the time, but this ONE thing, she did believe in.

That is truly goosebump inducing! And so important for us to remember.

Have a vision.

Believe in that vision.

Go after that vision.

J.K. Rowling is one amazing woman and I encourage you to read more about her life and all the charity work she does for causes and organizations.

If you are ready to develop your vision, take action on your vision or realize your vision, reach out to me at support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

I want to be friends with Barbara (again)

A few weeks ago I wrote a post titled,”I want to be friends with Barbara,” and as I wrote this one, I realized I could use the exact same title.

This time in our summer series of women leaders, it’s Barbara Walters.
Barbara’s father was a booking agent and she was surrounded by famous people from a very young age, which made it easier for her to feel comfortable and not as star struck around them.

The family moved around often from Massachusetts to New York to Florida and back again. Barbara graduated from Sarah Lawrence and began her career at an advertising agency.

She got into television, first as a writer and producer and found herself at NBC’s Today Show in 1961 working as a writer and researcher. She worked her way up, becoming a “Today Girl” and then eventually becoming the first female co-host. This was 1974! A women covering hard hitting news stories was not as common as it is today. Barbara set the stage for many women.

You hear the name Barbara Walters and maybe it’s her 10 Most Fascinating People special that comes to mind. A special that ran from 1993-2015, and featured world leaders, celebrities, entrepreneurs and many other names that had us glued to our television screens.

Or maybe it’s her work on The View, which she co-created, co-produced and co-hosted.

Maybe you’ve read her book, “How To Talk With Practically Anybody About Practically Anything,” originally published in 1970. That book has sold hundreds of thousands of copies worldwide and has even been translated into six different languages.

Or maybe it’s those classic SNL skits, when the amazing Gilda Radner portrayed Barbara. You know you’ve made it and are loved when you make SNL!

Barbara has moderated presidential debates, she has a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame and she has won Daytime and Primetime Emmy awards, just to name a few of her accomplishments.

To me, Barbara’s story teaches us to keep going and keep dreaming and keep working and keep changing the world.

She began her career in a male-dominated industry and made a name for herself by having a strong work ethic, confidence and belief in her value and her talents. Wow, in the work I have done with women over the past 10 years, our biggest struggle is owning our value and believing in ourselves. We women need leaders just like Barbara to model after. The more I follow her, the more I am inspired by her.

I found this quote that I had to share…

“ One may walk over the highest mountain one step at a time.” – Barbara Walters

Keep walking on your path. Celebrate each milestone. You are doing great things. If you want to talk about your next big step, feel free to reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

I want my Starbucks and I don’t care who knows it

There we were, getting our son Bryce moved into his new apartment in California and exhaustion from travel was starting to set in.

I needed coffee. And I needed it fast.

My husband said he saw a few coffee shops in the area and started to look on his phone for options when I quickly stopped him.
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“I need coffee, but more importantly, I need Starbucks,” I told him.

He glanced over at with me a small smirk as I pulled out my phone and opened the Starbucks app.

I simply knew what I wanted and that was Starbucks non-fat latte, extra hot. I’m not just a casual visitor at Starbucks, I’m a lifelong customer.

When you’re dealing with clients, you don’t want the client that comes in for a quick visit and never returns.

You want the client that continues to come to your organization for their business needs. You want to build a loyal and trusting relationship. You want to be the ‘go to.”

You can do that by being present, available, helpful and consistent.

I know when I walk into Starbucks and order my drink, it’s going to be exactly what I want and what I need.

Make sure your clients see your organization as a resource they need in their life.

Be present: Follow-up and say hello. A phone call goes a long way. Your sales team should be making these calls often.

Be available: Lend a hand, help with a promotion, sponsor a trade show. Do what you can as an organization to show your support.

Be helpful: Connect clients with other contacts and get them business. It’s a win-win all around.

Be consistent: Ensure you and your team are doing good work that makes an impact. It’s easy to sell something people already want.

Going back to our women in leadership series, Starbucks has quite a few women at the top.

In fact, a quick check of their website and I counted 19 women in senior Vice President, executive Vice President and other leadership roles, covering everything from creative development, to marketing and finance.

Starbucks has also stated that male and female employees doing the same job are paid within 99.7% of one another.

What fantastic news and a great example of a company working to stop the gender
wage gap.

So, next time you stop into my office for a visit, if you want to bring me my grande latte, (remember non-fat and extra hot), that would be pretty awesome.

If you want to talk about building and nurturing relationships, please reach out to support@slatersuccesscoaching.com

The one and only…Oprah

Oprah. Winfrey.

One amazing woman and my focus for this week’s women in leadership summer series.

Oprah was born into poverty as the daughter of a Mississippi single, teenage mother in 1954. (Actually, her birth name was Orpah, from the Book of Ruth in the bible, but it was misspelled and mispronounced so much that Oprah stuck).

She suffered sexual abuse from relatives, was made fun of in school because of her clothing and received more care from her grandmother than her own mother.

After a very troubled childhood, she began to thrive in high school, becoming an honor student and working for a radio station her senior year.

She started her journey in media, becoming a news anchor, a co-host of a local talk show, and eventually the host of a Chicago morning show hurting for ratings. When Oprah took the lead, the show skyrocketed into popularity and thus, The Oprah Winfrey Show was born in 1986. If I am doing my math correctly, WOW at 32 years old, this is a women who earns your respect and a role model for us all. Her show ran until 2011, a wildly impressive 25 years.

She has interviewed some of the biggest names in the world, runs a successful book club, started her own magazine and of course, OWN, her television network launched in 2011. She’s starred in movies and produced a Tony Award-winning Broadway musical.

She’s also raised and donated millions of dollars to charitable programs with causes like girls’ education and relief for victims of Hurricane Katrina.

She was the recipient of the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2013.

Her list of accomplishments is by far one of the greatest lists by any woman this century. Her beautiful and caring personality, her desire to give back and help others and the powerful role model she is for all women is truly inspiring.

Oprah has so many great quotes, but here are two of my favorites…

“Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey

Oprah is surely an example of those words. Her success is unmatched. Remember that quote as you prepare to get to the the next level of your business and career.

“Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” – Oprah Winfrey

I love this!

Surround yourself with support. If your support is building a business, support at home, with family. I look at my dry cleaners as part of my support team. With my busy speaking and traveling schedule, Josh always has my back. If you need someone to talk to about your business, please reach out.

And share with me on the SSC Facebook page your favorite Oprah quote!

Lessons learned, relinquishing control

Taking a short break from our summer series on women leaders to talk about some exciting news at Slater Success Coaching! As you may have heard, we are working on a brand new website, and along with new content comes new images!

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of spending the day with Kia Dyson, who happens to be the graphic designer for the new website AND also a photographer! I wanted to share a few behind the scenes photos and my biggest takeaway from the experience.
Want to know the hardest part for me?

No, it wasn’t being in front of the camera. I actually really enjoy that. As a former dancer, taking photos was always part of the gig.

No, it wasn’t being out in the heat and worrying about makeup, hair and clothing. I was really comfortable and had a fabulous make-up artist, Jody Formica, with me for the day, who I’ve worked with before on live events.

It was simply relinquishing control.

Yep. I had to trust and let the great people I hired do their job.

Kia is super professional and she asked me the right questions about the look and feel I wanted for the new site. She even had a technical conversation with the make-up artist about lighting she would use and the style that was our goal, something totally out of my realm of knowledge. She was all about sticking to the SSC brand, because she knows it. She’s part of it.

I’m not used to surrendering total control. I’m not going to lie, it took a lot of effort. But when I peeked into the lens and saw some of the results, I was really excited.

Lesson for the day is that micromanagement does not make for great leadership. It slows down the entire work process. We’ve all found ourselves in situations where a manager or leader didn’t fully trust us and it caused us to doubt ourselves and our ability. And maybe as a manger, we’ve done a little micromanagement of our own team when it was totally unnecessary.

Let go.

Trust.

Believe.

I have a wonderful team supporting me in my every day and I had a wonderful team supporting me yesterday.

Now, if I could only get my makeup and hair done every day, that would really be the dream!

Let me know what you think about the new photos on the SSC Facebook page.